It was a hurtful comment... okay, I'll go ahead & say it. It was from someone I have never really been all that close to... but still words are hurtful. The comment was regarding a post I had where I was lamenting the life of a stay-at-home Momma. It's hard. Believe me. I've done it all. I worked full time with a kid, part-time, and home all the time. NONE are easy. NONE deserve any less respect. NONE of these options are "just" as in "just" a stay-at-home Mom, "just" a part-time Mom, "just" a working Mom. These "just"-ifications are hurtful to all. As Moms, aren't we really all working our hardest, pretty much all the time? You have no idea how much DIRTIER a house becomes when you are living in it all day (although it is easier with one at school, I will admit). You have no idea the GUILT a working Mommy feels (can't volunteer at school like the other Moms? your child doesn't want to leave the sitter - would rather be with THEM than you - they do see that person more during waking hours, after all).
UGH! Can't we all just agree to support each other??? I am thankful for all my supportive friends... I have made lots of choices regarding working & my kids. I am "technically" working again. I don't regret any.
I guess what I am saying is this: Don't EVER look down on someone for the choice they made. You have NO IDEA what it is like to walk in someone else's shoes. Even IF you *think* you know what it's like - trust me, you don't. We are all unique - every situation is unique. It's time to stop comparing & start living. Make it your goal to be the best you can be as a Mom/Wife/Friend. That's what is truly important. Not what so-and-so thinks about you & the choices you make on a daily basis. Trust yourself.
Sorry for the rant. Back to happy thoughts later.
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